Listen Up, Girls!

1. Guys hate those who flirt cheaply.
So, that means girls like 'cheap flirting'? Or is this an excuse for weird jealous possessiveness? What IS 'cheap flirting' anyway?

2. Guys do cry.
Breaking news! A guy was spotted CRYING in the streets downtown! I repeat, he was CRYING!

3. It's not just the looks guys fall for, they also like girls who are not so pretty.
Thank you for giving more women body-image issues.

4. If guys care about you, they will overlook your bad traits.
And this is reassuring how? Isn't it better if the person accepts you for your good traits as well as the bad?

5. Guys love it when you smile.
Unless you are the Grinch. Thanks Mr. Obvious.

6. Guys don't like it if you talk about your ex-boyfriends.
And girls LOVE it when guys tell them about all the girls they've slept with.

7. Guys are hesitant to talk to a girl they like.
Because girls are actually Charizards in disguise and will incinerate any guy who comes near. I thought that both girls and guys are shy/awkward in the presence of the person they liked.

8. Guys don't like it when you play hard to get.
So girls, always say yes to anything guys ask you. Seriously, there would be so much lesser rapes/sexual harassment/violence against women if they just said yes to all the stalkers and lechers. Why should it matter whether or not the girl is at all interested.

9.Guys like it when you can stand up for yourself.
Wait, isn't this contradictory to the previous tip? Also, a backbone is an admirable quality in all human beings.

10. Guys want someone to listen to them.
Gee, I didn't EVER think of that.



Why do these tips at all exist? Are they attempts to break the dichotomy between young-adults of the two genders? Aren't they back firing and re-emphasizing the duality itself? Isn't this yet another way of cementing the stereotypes? Isn't it a way of saying that girls will never understand guys (and vice versa) unless they are tabulated and spoon fed into their brains? Isn't it trying to establish heterosexuality as the only acceptable norm?

Most of the points in these so-called tips can be applicable for both men and women. I don't see the reason why these should be split up into "guys want girls to know" and "girls want guys to know" categories. Everyone, irrespective of their genders like a mature, sensible, happy person. Both genders expect the other person to care about them and accept them for who they are. Everyone wants someone to listen to them, without judging. It's weird how gender-stereotypes are reinforced everyday. In the end, we all want the same thing - love.

It's a debatable issue and I too am grappling with possible answers and outcomes. Till we find them, a little sense would really be appreciated.

Money

For Everything Else

I may not have money. 

I may not have a dime, a penny, an anna to my name.

I will still own - 

My body, 

My beliefs,
My dreams,

My rights,

My self.

Because there will always be things that money can't buy.

Hate

I've been told that I have a short temper and I lose it often. And I use the word HATE a lot. Also, I mean it most of the time. 

I'll agree that I have a hot head, and my fury reaches boiling point faster than most people, but I don't lose it until it's really bugging. I might be really angry at something but I really do try not to show it unless the situation demands it. However there are times when I lose that self-control, especially if a number of things are bothering me.

Right now, I hate my net connection.It's annoying, excuse my language, the shit out of me. Almost literally too. Having no internet is the worst possible calamity that can befall you. Not only can you not laze around on Facebook, you actually cannot work. Yes, there are other uses for Internet than just fun and leisure. I've not been able to post everyday because of this infuriating lack of connection. I have paper and project deadlines for my university courses which need net assistance. I've not been able to Skype with my parents because the effing net doesn't work. This has been the norm for the whole of last week. If I don't lose my head at this, I would think I don't have a head. Jeez!

Among other things I hate, dishonesty and untruthfulness top the list. Then come stereotypes and people who stereotype, followed by emotional leeches and attention-mongers. And whiners. Also, classes on weekends and trains running late.

Yet, thankfully, being an inherently detached person, I've found it is possible for me to detach myself from my hate for things. I write about it and swear and get it all out, mostly on paper. I have found my ways to deal with it. It wasn't easy, yes, but it could be done. I'm glad for that, because being angry is tiring.

Hate is quite an active emotion for me. Maybe it's wrong to hate things, but I've always been an opinionated person.